Many a times, I am asked , whether I am doing my thing correctly; that too by others ! Namely, my second child, Shivansh,aged 7years and in Std.Ist always asks me when I come back from town,"When are you going to your next class ?" That's because , he's seen me taking a Coaching Class lecture for Grade Xth [English subject] in the nearby Dahisar[West]. The same question is asked again and again, each day,by my spouse,"When is your Class ? Are you not going to teaching in the Coaching Class today? Have you no work today (sometimes sarcastically, as if i were the only one left in this world who doesn't know what to do whence)? When is the last time that you took responsibility for your actions ? When was the last time that you brought something, that too without my asking for it in the first place ?" You have again not come to the dinner or Lunch [On Sunday Afternoon] at my first call !!!!!
You are always busy, working on the computer , writing things that are unimportant to this Family ? Have you gone outta your mind as to not answer me at the first instance , and do my bidding is the frequent threat put out by my spouse on me. To this, i always meekly have replied,"I always do your bidding, madam,well the computer takes time to safely close down and thence only can i leave it. If any program is suddenly ejected then harm comes to the computer; or it could be infected with an virus attack as i am on the internet always posting articles, just as this one; and also extracting informations from the Google Search engine."
To which she always adds an immediate nonchalant reply,"Your family is great in such excuses, but none of this is going to affect, nay fool me ; for i come from a great family who all know the values of time in their life. You are the only numb-skull, to whom i married; had i married someone else, it would have made my life a heaven on earth."
With these brief , interludes growing on in their normal course of my life , albeit every day; shall we say as unavoidable bickerings, so much so that i am now hard-pressed to say that it would not be arguably untrue that i am living my life on a razor-sword edge. If we tend to analyse the above, from an "NLP" or "Neuro-Linguistic Programming Techniques" based ways, then it could be seen ; that everyone who is in touch with you in your daily life, stresses you out for doing their own biddings.Right from your son,spouse, friends, neighbors,colleagues,etc. There is one thing , however, in common , to all of them; and that is the following unknowingly of a few NLP-Pre-suppositions, like---"My Map is not your territory," " My Map is distinct from yours, to your map i do not agree always," "My ways in life and also Living the Life are greater that those of yours," "Whatever i do as a spouse or tell you is the ONLY TRUTH TO BE DONE, and followed by my commands."
Counseling of such persons who do not adhere to the NLP techniques , are grossly dictatorial in nature, live life at their own rulebook modes, make it difficult to adjust with them. It then gets down with your nerves , and sometimes you are prone to manic-depression attacks which are similar to mild heart attack. Whats your comment ? Can you share any of your experiences different to mine , but on same tracks ?
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